A recent forum rant, brought these thoughts in my mind. We should respect the boundaries between player and their alts. All of us have different reasons for playing. Some likes RP, some likes the cool factor in skills, some likes Combat and pitting skills, systems, etc. Some play Achaean character as themselves. Some play Achaean character like an actor playing a movie character.
I treat Aerallyn like a character in a book. As the author, I decide on her basic make up, motivations, etc. But like a really good story, she can run away from whatever plot I had planned for her. And as an ephemeral as she is, she is alive and separate from me. Like a creator and her creation, I can be proud of her achievements and I can cry for her failures and heartbreaks.
As Aerallyn's player, I've been fortunate that Aerallyn's one and only romantic relationship had been kept completely in-game. As the player, I've been avoiding any kind of romance for fear that it might bleed over to OOC. But hearing some IC/OOC crossover horror stories makes me really grateful that Aerallyn's love-interest has a good player. Heh, I actually enjoyed their breaking-up phase a lot more than the falling-in-love phase

. Mainly because Aerallyn surprised me. That was one of the pivotal points where she really comes into her own. She showed strength I never knew she had. She showed wisdom in her odd Tsol'aa ways, that I had not expected. Yes, she pleased me and made me really proud of her.